You are not alone

 

While you read this article, you are probably sitting in one of, if not the worst, moments of your life. Finding your spouse or partner has betrayed you will certainly leave you feeling alone, angry, jealous, betrayed, and even a strong sense of confusion. The questions begin to rise; How did I not see this coming? Why is this happening to me? What about our children? Will we get past this? How do I know he won’t do this to me again?

 

Sound Familiar?

There is hope for you and for your relationship. You can survive, overcome, and thrive on the other side of this storm. Healing and hope are a possibility and we will get there together. As you begin this process we will look at five crucial elements of healing.

 

Self-Care

With a little bit of attention to your own self-care, you will be able to better connect to your own self, journey, and well being This is a necessity for this work to begin and is often a step in our lives that is quickly overseen. In honoring
yourself you will be able to better allow the space to begin to heal.

 

Listen To Your Inner-Self

You know that voice that wondered, maybe years ago, if something was wrong? “I feel like I am crazy. Something in my stomach says this is a bit off.” We will make it a priority to not only find that inner voice again, but to listen to it! Our intuition and body offers a great deal of vital information and we must learn to reconnect and trust ourselves.

 

Acceptance and Work Through Grief

Betrayal is one of the biggest heartaches we can face in a relationship. Once we have begun to connect with ourselves we find space to see what has happened, accept it as it is, and begin to heal. The emotional journey will take us to many places and we will begin to be able to meet and work through these intense emotional shifts through this chapter of your lives.

 

Boundaries

Boundaries are what keep us safe! Boundaries are not; rules, threats, ultimatums, or control. They simply allow us to know that our needs and feelings are important and will prioritized. be Chances are we have never actually set a boundary in our relationship. Setting boundaries with consequences when not met, will allow a sense of empowerment that has been lost, equality in our relationship, and honoring of ones self needs.

 

Re-connection to Partner

It is important that we set room for connection in the relationship throughout this process. This connection can be a formal communication skill, time spent doing an activity, or even couples therapy. Connection and communication allow you, as the partner, to see the progress being made to assure your safety, as well as share how you are feeling and what you need from your partner.

 

Are you ready to heal? Do you want to figure out how to move forward, process this, and rebuild your relationship? 

If your answer is “yes,” then your next step is to contact me.

 

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Lauren Waters specializes in helping couples recover from infidelity and rebuild their relationship based on honesty, vulnerability, and open communication. Give her a call today to see how she can help you.